As I sit here writing this, I am sitting at a local Starbucks, drinking my favorite Cinnamon Almond Milk Macchiato, on a date with myself. I wasn’t always able to take myself on dates because I was mortified of going out in public places alone. Once I decided to really dedicate myself to being single and focusing on being a better version of myself it started to get a little easier. Now I am so confident that I will walk into a 5 star restaurant with a book and demand to be sat at a table, not the bar because I am there alone.
Taking yourself on dates might be outside of your comfort zone, but once you do it, you will fall in love with it. Even though I wrote this for singles, I truly believe that even if you are in a relationship you should take yourself on solo dates. Granted when single a person will probably go on more solo dates then when in a relationship. However, it is important for everyone to spend some time with themselves.
- Go to a concert you have been wanting to see. It doesn’t matter if you have great seats, or even get lawn seats. Sing along, dance around, have fun!
- Buy yourself a new video game, go home, turn your phone off, and order delivery. Enjoy playing your new game in peace.
- Take your dog mans best friend to the dog park for the afternoon.
- Don’t have a dog? Go to a local dog shelter. Offer to walk the dogs to give them some love and exercise.
- A long drive. Bring your favorite playlist. Roll the windows down and feel the wind on your face. Taking a long scenic drive with some great music is extremely relaxing.
- Go to a beach or local park and watch the sunset. Sunsets aren’t just for couples and cliche proposals; they’re beautiful and relaxing for everybody. Get there 20 minutes before sun down. Bring a good snack, a book or journal and sit back and enjoy.
- Take yourself zip-lining somewhere both thrilling and beautiful.
- Take a class nobody would want to do with you – pottery, improv comedy, cooking, or woodworking. Immerse yourself in it.
- Go people watching. This is one of my favorite. Just make sure it is somewhere appropriate so you are not that creepy person. Put down the phone and grab a cup of coffee and sit back and watch. Create stories about the people passing by.
- An overnight getaway. Who doesn’t say they need more vacation time? There’s no reason why you can’t book yourself a romantic evening away for one, even if it’s a local hotel and all you do is order room service, take advantage of the pool and gym, and sleep in.
- Go for a bike ride. Ride your bike around town or find a great scenic route or trail.
- Get lost in a museum. Whether it’s discovering new artworks or marveling at an ancient piece of history, the experience is very personal. Go at your own pace and feel what moves you.
- Go to a comedy club. Head down to your local comedy club and laugh until your ribs hurt. You won’t regret it.
- Go see a live show. Wicked, Les Miserables, Fiddler On The Roof, these are just a few of the shows I’ve seen and I loved them all!
- Go see a movie your friends wouldn’t normally go to with you. And you don’t have to share the popcorn.
- Lay in the grass and relax watching the clouds. Make sure to turn your phone off.
- Go to the planetarium.
- Find a local food festival and enjoy guiltless indulgent eating.
- Do something festive for whatever holiday is coming up (Drive around and look at Halloween decorations or Christmas lights).
- Sitting by a window as it’s raining outside and you are curled up with a glass of wine and a good book.
Taking yourself on solo dates will help you to fall more in love with yourself. You deserve that whether you’re in a relationship or not. I actually believe that it’s sometimes even more important when you’re in a relationship, so you don’t lose your own identity within the relationship. When I go on solo dates, I get to know myself better. I allow myself to experience things in a new way. So, pick one, or try them all. Go take yourself on a solo date! Above all, enjoy yourself.
Until next time….