Tips On How To Handle Being Ghosted

Tips On How To Handle Being Ghosted

Tips On How To Handle Being Ghosted

Ghosting – although extremely cruel is also very popular. If you are single in this digital world of dating, odds are you will be ghosted at least once. Confrontation is not something most people look forward to, so ghosting makes ending things easy and painless for the ghoster. The ghostee however, has an array of emotions they must now battle through. Hurt, pain, and confusion are at the top of the list. With this new epidemic of ghosting, we must learn how to handle being ghosted. So here are some tips on how to handle being ghosted.

First and foremost don’t jump the gun. Make sure you have actually been ghosted before reacting. Sometimes people get busy and can’t text as often as they did in the beginning. If you text someone and get no reply at all yes you’ve been ghosted. But if you are only getting one text a day, when you were getting multiple, it’s not so clear.

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Now if you are anything like me, you will call them out on it. If you decide to call them out on it do not expect a response or explanation. Cowards are cowards, but it might make you feel better. The last guy that ghosted me prompted me to write The Epidemic Of Ghosting. I sent him a text calling him a coward and thanked him for the inspiration for my blog post. I included the link for him.

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Once you call them out ONCE leave it alone. Firstly, you don’t want to look crazy. Don’t give them a reason to justify ghosting you. Secondly, you will not get what you are looking for.  As difficult and frustrating as it might be, nothing you do will get you the answers that you are looking for.

Now comes the most important things. Delete every form of contact. This isn’t just for you, but to cut them off from trying to contact you again. Delete their number. Block them on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, and anything else they can contact you with. They showed you no respect, there are no do overs.

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It’s not you, it’s them! You did nothing to deserve that kind of treatment. You are not to blame for their cowardice. Stop second guessing everything you said and did.

Remember how amazing you are and that you deserve better. Be grateful that they are no longer in your life. Not only do you not want such a weak person in your life, but imagine how shity they would be in other aspects of a relationship with this kind of behavior.

Give yourself one good cry. Call your friends and have a couple of drinks commiserating over what an ass your ghoster is. Vent and cry, make sure you get it all out.

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Lastly have a good laugh at the ghosters expense. I’m talking about belly laughs at the man with no balls. Who better then your ride or die girls to shred this POS with?

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Now pick up your big girl  panties and move on. Remember the queen that you are and go about your life. Don’t give them a second thought.

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The Epidemic of Ghosting

The Epidemic of Ghosting

The Epidemic of Ghosting

In this new digital world of dating, well let’s face it digital way of living, people feel free to act in ways they wouldn’t normally IRL. Whether it be sending naked photos to strangers, bullying, or ghosting. Ghosting, in case you have been living under a rock is when someone you have been “talking to” or dating simply vanishes without a word.

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I was recently ghosted by a 42 year old man we will refer to as Starbucks Matthew. I don’t feel the need to hold back when it comes to shitheads so I let him know he was my inspiration for this.

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Is there anything really more cowardly or cruel than making someone think that things are going great, and then just disappearing? No goodbye, no explanation, no reason, just poof gone. Not even the decency to muster up the lame ass it’s not you, it’s me.And why not? Odds are you will never have to face the ghosted party again. We live in a society where you meet online and no longer through acquaintances of other IRL scenarios.
How easy it is to treat people so shitty when there is no accountability. Cowardliness is the new norm. There is no one to confront the ghosters, so they have no shame in their behavior. No one deserves to sit around and wonder what the f*** they did, because someone else decides to be a piece of shit. It seems that in this new society manners, etiquette, and hell, human decency are dying at an alarming rate.

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Don’t allow yourself to be defeated by these fuckboys. You are amazing!

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If you are single in this brave new world, odds are you will be ghosted at least once if you haven’t already. It’s very easy to say don’t take it personally, it’s not you, it’s them. Well, duh, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt like hell. Let’s try something new though. Let’s use our pain to reflect on how we treat others in this new world and do better.

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Dating Today Sucks and Here's Why

Dating Today Sucks and Here’s Why

  1. Dating Today Sucks and Here's Why

Dating Today Sucks and Here’s Why:

Everyone is a commitmentphobe talking to multiple people at all times. People are so busy looking for something better, that they don’t build a relationship with anyone. Most dating is online instead of IRL, which is awkward and tedious. In this new digital age of communication, it is as if people no longer know how to truly interact with others in a meaningful way.

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How can you ever make a real connection when you are battling cat fishers, competing with endless other people, ghosting, and countless other insanities. You have to be prepared for the ceaseless stream of first date interviews (sometimes worse than an actual job interview), most over obligatory coffee. Even if you battle through and ace your first date, that is where the real games begin.
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People don’t date anymore, they hang out. They text at midnight seeing who will respond. They play games. Well, we had a great date now I can’t text for three days. They get a text that makes them smile, but put the phone down because they can’t respond to quickly, in fear of looking desperate. The emotional tug of war that comes with today’s dating is exhausting.
I’ve been single long enough to know these games, but that doesn’t mean that I want to play them. There is nothing more vial then people who purposely play with others emotions just because they can. Man up people, it’s okay to like someone, it’s okay not to like someone. It is not okay to act like you like someone and then disappear with no explanation.

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The millennial’s version of “dating” is sad. It’s not our fault, this is how society is training us. Welcome to the new world of confessing our feelings over text and social media, but a real face to face relationship is no longer the norm.
I am not looking for a pen pal do not message me for weeks on end with no intention of meeting IRL.   Don’t ask me to come “watch Netflix and chill”. Don’t text me at 1 a.m. on a Saturday because I won’t be impressed. Don’t expect to get laid, I am not DTF. Let’s keep it simple, try just not being a douche.

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How can anyone find this millennial dating fulfilling?  Meaningless “hangouts”, shallow people, and obsession with finding something better. If so many people are unhappy about this, then let’s force a change.  Let’s start by respecting other people’s feelings. Let’s stop accepting behavior that is the new “norm” and start holding out for behavior that is worthy of us.

 

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30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

30 Reasons Why Your 30’s Is The Best Time To Be Single!

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

 

By the time you reach your 30’s, most of your friends/family will already be paired off. Many of them will also have children. There is something about hitting your 30’s that makes women panic about not being married. Maybe you feel that you have outdated every other woman in town. Well here is 30 Reasons Why Your 30’s Is The Best Time To Be Single!

 

1. Because 30’s are the new 20’s

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!2. Because this is the time to work on you

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!3. Because you can do whatever you want, whenever you want

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4. Because you didn’t settle

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5. Because you can date anyone you want

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6. Because the best is yet to come

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7. Because you can still have kids – IF YOU WANT

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

8. Because who doesn’t want unlimited friend time?

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

9. Because you don’t have to share a bed

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10. Because your sex life can be whatever you want it to be

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11. Because you can wear whatever you want

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

12. Because you don’t have to shave unless you are getting a pedicure or a massage

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13. Because you don’t have to share-  From dessert to a closet you can be as selfish as you want

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14. Because no one cares as much as you think they do

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15. Because you still have an entire bucket list to check off

16. Because you don’t have to deal with in-laws

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17. Because you like your money

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18. Because men can be children

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

19. Because children change everything

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20. Because you have more time to focus on your career

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

21. Because you know what red flags to look for

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22. Because you are able to date smarter

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23. Because you are no loner afraid of alone time

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

24. Because you do not have to split the holidays

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25. Because you are more confident than you have ever been

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26. Because you don’t have to worry about getting a divorce

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27. Because you can take solo trips

30 Reasons Why Your 30's Is The Best Time To Be Single!

28. Because you have time to get in shape

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29. Because you can find new hobbies

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30. Because you can learn to do things you wouldn’t otherwise

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It’s a crazy outdated notion that you should be married by 30. Family life can be great and definitely has its merits. But not everyone will be ready for it at the same time, if ever. Whether you’re happy to stay single or are looking forward to eventually meeting your match, this is your time to be independent and love life.

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