10 First Date Tips For Women

10 First Date Tips For Women

 

 

 

10 First Date Tips For WomenDating today can feel like walking through a mine field. Whether it is online dating or IRL dating can be confusing and anxiety producing, especially the first date. Well here are some timeless tips to make it easier.  Here are 10 First Date Tips For Women.

1. Be yourself and  Relax. Easier said than done, I know. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be something you are not. Don’t try to be the version of yourself you wish you were. He is here because he sees something in the real you.

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2. Dress appropriately And attractively. First impressions matter! Wear something that makes you feel confident and truly great about yourself. Don’t wear something that will make you physically uncomfortable like heals to the beach. Make him work for it, don’t wear something that is going to reveal all of your goods (don’t dress to revealing). Just as dressing overly sexy can be an issue, not looking date-ready at all can also be a turnoff.

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3. Mind your manners. First impressions matter! Show up on time, be polite to the waitstaff, and give your date your undivided attention.

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4. Turn the volume off on your phone. You do not want your alerts, texts, or calls to distract either of you from the date. Do not keep checking your phone either. Yes, use it to check in and let someone know where you are and that you are okay, otherwise leave your phone alone.

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5. Let him lead and cut him some slack.  Let him pay, open doors, pull out your chair. (Yes, I’m old school). Remember that he’s likely nervous and is trying to figure out first-date rules, too.  So if he is faltering help him out.

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6.Have a code word. I know it sounds crazy but that is the world we live in. Don’t just text I’m alive, fine, blah, blah, blah. Have a code word for being okay so your loved ones really know it is you sending the message. Don’t let yourself get stuck with a certified creeper.

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7. Be present. Show interest in your date and be an active listener. Nothing is going to be a bigger turn off than a girl who is completely distracted on the first date. Engage him in conversation, without making it all about you.

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8. Address the elephant in the room.  If something is making you uncomfortable, speak up. Awkward silence, your mind goes blank, wish you hadn’t just said something that flew out of your mouth? Speak up.  Not only will you feel better, you will make him more comfortable, too.

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9. Establish boundaries. Boundaries include oversharing and physical boundaries. Don’t overshare, this is only the first date. If it is meant to be you will have plenty of time to share. Establish physical boundaries. If you want more than a one night stand sex on the first date is not a good idea.

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10. Don’t drink too much. One drink is fine, maybe two at the most. Don’t drink too much because you don’t want to look sloppy. More importantly you don’t want to put yourself in a dangerous situation. Don’t forget this is a stranger.

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Until next time…..

How to Handle Being Breadcrumbed

How to Handle Being Breadcrumbed

How to Handle Being Breadcrumbed

This new digital age of dating is awful! First ghosting, now breadcrumbing, what’s next? So many ways of digital rejection. So first if you don’t know what breadcrumbing is, check out Breadcrumbing Because Ghosting Wasn’t BadEnough.

http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/breadcrumbing-because-ghosting-wasnt-bad-enough/

 

HOW TO HANDLE BEING BREADCRUMBED 

1.) Don’t make excuses or justify their behavior – You need to believe in their patterns not their apologies.

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2.) Don’t take the blame. There is nothing wrong with you!

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3.) Call out there behavior. it probably won’t make a difference, but it will make you feel better. also, i believe that the more we call them out, the higher chance they will stop their shitty behavior.

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4.) Stop Responding. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result.

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Breadcrumbing like ghosting is savage AF. At the end of the day you are lucking out because breadcrumbers are either lonely, fearful of being alone,  sadistic, or simply selfish. Who want’s that kind of POS in their life? Believe the red flags, they are real.

Don’t forget to check out How To Know When Someone Is Breadcrumbing you. http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/how-to-know-when-someone-is-breadcrumbing-you/