My Journey To Self Love

My Journey To Self Love
Self Love is the new #relationshipgoals

When I used to think of self love, I thought about accepting and loving my body/my looks. Since starting on my journey to self love, I realized it is so much more than that. Learning to care for your mind, body, and soul is true self love. 


If you struggle with self love like many of us do, I think it is important to do some soul searching. Try to figure out why you have a hard time loving yourself. If you can face something from your past, that makes it hard to love yourself, it will make it easier to get past it.

My journey to self love has been a constant battle. Finding it in me to say no to people, taking time to myself, instead of doing something to benefit others, and honestly figuring out what self love is personally. One thing I have learned in my journey, is that self love does not come easily or naturally. It is really something that needs to be worked at.

Going to the gym, excising, and eating healthy are habits that I have learned are necessary for self love. I do not do this for the perfect weight, complexion, or smile, but so I feel healthy. Yes, I exercise to maintain a healthy weight, but more importantly, I exercise for my anxiety and a good nights sleep.

One of the best things that has come from my journey to self love is my confidence has grown. I have also learned to steer clear of negativity. I do not care if it is friends, family, co workers, any one who brings negativity to my life is someone I do not want to be around.

The journey to self love will be different for everyone. Self love is not something we are born with, nor is it something we are usually taught at a young age. It is something we must discover for ourselves.


Check out How To Begin Loving Yourself In 5 Easy Steps

What I learned From My Last Breakup

What I learned From My Last Breakup

I had been single for quite a while until recently. In that time I had learned who I am, what I want, and most importantly to love myself. That was a game changer. I was comfortable being single. Having taken the time to learn those things about myself, is what actually allowed me to break off the relationship.

I just recently ended a six week relationship. There were a number of red flags during our brief time together. I was getting a nagging feeling in the pit of my stomach. I probably should have ended things even sooner, but the fact that I did end it as soon as I did was a total win for me.

Where in the past I would ignore these red flags and gut feelings, I didn’t look the other way this time. I ended the relationship. Granted he was extremely nice, had a decent job, and impressed my family. Yet, at the end of the day my stomach was in knots because something just wasn’t right.

So, I ended things. Here is what I learned from my breakup.

I have become to happy with my life to settle.

As much as I hate confrontation, I had to face the situation head on. It was important to be clear, firm, and kind. One of the important things that I learned was that I had to be clear that it was over, firm in not allowing him to get me to give him another chance, and kind so that I didn’t unnecessarily hurt him.

Listen to your gut. While others might say you are being picky, this is why you are alone, or you’re not giving someone a chance, don’t ignore your gut!

The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.

I am forever growing and continuously changing. I want to be defined by my accomplishments and not a relationship status.

For most of my life I have clung to relationships that were completely unhealthy. Thinking that I could “fix” the other person or if I loved them enough it would get better. Being a couple was better than being single, even if it wasn’t a healthy relationship. I learned this kind of thinking is just crazy!

Breaking up is not a reflection of my self worth.

Did Ariana Grande not nail it with her song Thank you, next? Even if every relationship isn’t the best it still teaches you something. Rather than staying angry, look back at the relationship with clear eyes and see what it taught you.

So, this is what I learned from my last breakup. What did you learn from yours? Comment below and let us know.

Check out Why it’s great to be single in your 30’s

Until next


25 Top Songs For Singles

25 Top Songs For Singles

25 Top Songs For Singles

Music is an important part of my life. Whether it be a way to express my pain or an escape from the world, music is an outlet for me. It is important to be able to relate to the music that you are listening to. So I wanted to share my favorite songs for singles. Single never sounded so good!

1. Ridin’ Solo – Jason Derulo

2. Bad at Love – Halsey

3. Sorry Not Sorry – Demi Lovato

4. Two Out of Three Ain’t Bad – Meatloaf

5. Echo – Gorilla Zoe

6. Piece of My Heart – Janice Joplin

7. New Rules – Dua Lipa

8. Miserable – LIT

9. Ohio is For Lovers – Hawthorne Heights

10. Maneater – Nelly Furtado

11. Stronger- Brittany Spears

12. You Don’t Own Me – Grace featuring G-Easy

13. Single Ladies – Beyonce

14. He Wasn’t Man Enough For Me – Toni Braxton

15. Hit Em Up Style – Blu Cantrell featuring Foxy Brown

16. I Don’t Wanna Be In Love – Good Charlotte

17. Fighter – Christina Aguilera

18. Tie Me Down – New Boyz

19. Needed Me – Rihanna

20. Nothing Breaks Like A Heart – Mark Ronson featuring Miley Cyrus 

21. Thank you, Next – Ariana Grande 

22. Leave Me Alone – Flipp Dinero 

23. Solo De Mi – Bad Bunny

24. Feeling Myself – Beyonce featuring Nicki Minaj 

25. Born This Way – Lady Gaga 

Come check out my playlist on Spotify.

Come check out my responses to the question Why are you still single?

Until next time…..

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

Only those who suffer from anxiety can truly understand how frightening and horrific it is. Suddenly you feel like you cannot breathe, you feel like you need to break open your chest to get some relief, the feeling of crawling out of your skin, breaking out in a sweat, and overwhelming dizziness. Living with anxiety can make you feel crazy and broken. But, you are not! Here is how I live with crippling anxiety.

The scariest thing to do is talk about having anxiety. People are terrified of looking crazy, not perfect, or damaged. Having anxiety doesn’t make you any of those things. And believe it or not, many people around you odds are suffer from anxiety too. It is important to find someone that also suffers from anxiety that you can talk to.

Although many people do not like going to the doctor or taking medication, I have found that it is necessary in helping me to control my anxiety. While, I do not solely depend on medication to deal with my anxiety, it is a big part of keeping it under control.

Another instrumental tool I use in battling my anxiety is exercise. Whether it be just going for a long walk, or going to the gym for an intense work out, excising helps. I can feel the difference when I work out and when I don’t.

Breathing. It sounds easy, I know. But it isn’t always. So, I take a step back and tell myself to breath. Specifically, I try t use the 5-7-9 method of breathing. Inhale for 5 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale for 9 seconds.

Get enough sleep. People make fun of me all of the time because I am almost militant about getting enough sleep. I do not budge on this because I know how important it is to keep my anxiety under control.

My sister actually taught me this one and it works. Multiplication tables. I know it sounds weird but it truly helps. Counting backwards also helps.

Anxiety can be immobilizing. Living with anxiety can seem unbearable, but you can live a normal and happy life with anxiety. You just need to find what works for you.

If you need help check out the Anxiety And Depression Association Of America

Don’t miss my post on living with mental illness