live a balanced life

HOW TO LIVE A BALANCED LIFE AS A WORKING WOMAN

live a balanced life

I don’t know about you, but there’s days I leave work and am so mentally exhausted I don’t feel like I have anything left. While I do not have children, I do have two dogs, a boyfriend, friends, and family. For a long time I knew I wasn’t living a balanced life. Finally, I got fed up and knew I had to change. Here’s some tips on how to live a balanced life.

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* Learn to say NO!

You can’t live a balanced life if you are living for everyone else. When you do say no, DON’T apologize for it!

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* Try to keep a positive mental attitude.

We all know the saying we make plans, and God laughs. Life is full of the unexpected. Let go of the things you can’t control.

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* Prioritize.

What is truly important to you?

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* When you leave work don’t bring it home with you.

I know, this is much harder than it sounds. I have struggled with this for years. It is still something I struggle with, but I try to work on every day.

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* All work and no play is a sure fire way to live an unbalanced life.

Whether it be something small like an extra long shower, or something bigger like a pedicure after a long day you time is necessary for living a balanced life.

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* Ask for help

There is absolutely NO shame in asking for help. I had a very hard time asking for help and would try to do EVERYTHING myself. There would be times I would literally cry because it was to much. It took time and work, but now I ask for help.Whether it be at work, with my boyfriend, or with my family, I ask for help.

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Be conscious of how you spend your time. Whether you are at work or out with friends be fully present. Give 100% when at work, and don’t be constantly checking your phone for emails when with friends.

As women we are expected to do it all, have a career, practice self-care, take care of our families, cook, clean, the list goes on and on. As crazy as life gets and as busy as we are balance is achievable. And remember no one can do it all.

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Tips For Getting a Good Night’s Sleep After a Breakup

I am so excited to share this guest post with you. Christine Huegel is going to share with us how to get a good night’s sleep after a breakup.

Tips For Getting a Good Night's Sleep After a Break Up
Christine Huegel
Tips For Getting a Good Night's Sleep After a Break Up

Anyone who has ever been through a breakup knows that they can be pretty rough. Whether it came by surprise or it was something you’d been preparing for, breaking the close, emotional bond you had developed with your ex can be both mentally and physically devastating. While breakups are typically for the best, you will have to cope with the pain of a broken heart and feelings of loneliness, longing, and possibly even anger. In addition, the difficult emotions that come along with breakups often take a toll on one’s physical health.

Post-breakup insomnia

One health issue that many experience after a breakup is known as “post-breakup insomnia.” Unfortunately, post-breakup insomnia is a condition that is often detrimental to one’s overall health and wellbeing. Without the proper amount of sleep, our bodies are unable to undergo the restorative processes required for healthy emotional regulation and proper organ functioning. After a break up, your emotions are already out of whack – so, when you add sleep deprivation into the mix, you’re body is simply unable to regulate and combat all those negative emotions. This lack of sleep can lead to increased feelings of anxiety and depression and make moving on from the split feel impossible. Meanwhile, the emotional strain of a breakup coupled with the effects of insomnia can cause you to push away the people you love and become isolated from your support group. Aside from elevated feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness, not receiving enough sleep can also impact your performance at work or school – which can cause a host of separate issues in your life.

How to get a good night’s sleep after the split

Overall, achieving a healthy sleep cycle after a breakup can be the key to moving on and starting the next chapter of your life. Following these tips will help prevent post-breakup insomnia and ensure that you get a clean start:

Start meditating.

Meditation is an incredibly useful tool to deal with any of the stressors life throws your way, especially breakups, because it re-trains your mind and body. Through controlled breathing and the repetition of mantras, meditation alters the way your body responds to stress. Practicing this powerful therapy before bed will calm your thoughts, create an inner-quiet, and allow you to fall asleep faster.

Start a before-bed gratitude journal.

The negative thoughts and emotions of a breakup can sneak up at the end of the night and prevent you from falling asleep. Starting a bedtime gratitude journal will allow you to change those negative thought patterns into positive ones and get a peaceful night’s rest. We recommend that you write down three things you are grateful for and one reason you are special in your journal every night at bedtime.

Find someone to talk to.

Breakups can be traumatic – and they can cause us more pain than we realize. Therapy, whether in a group or one-on-one with a counselor, will provide you with the tools you need to move past the emotional damage experienced in a breakup.

Try aromatherapy at bedtime.

Studies have found that certain essential oils encourage sleep. In addition, essential oils have also been shown to improve mood and dampen the effects of stress and anxiety. Try putting the following oils in your diffuser at bedtime to help reduce stress and promote sleep:

  • Lavender
  • Cedarwood
  • Chamomile
  • Lemon Balm

Although breakup-related insomnia is an issue that many face, it doesn’t mean that it’s inevitable. Listening to your body, focusing on your inner peace, and making your health a priority will allow you to achieve a beneficial nights sleep on a regular basis. And, eventually, this breakup will become part of your past and you will move on with your life. Distance and time will allow your wounds to heal and you will begin a new, more promising chapter of life.

Well I hope you enjoyed our first guest post. And hopefully you’ve learned some great tricks to a good night’s sleep after a breakup.

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SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP
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Laying in bed tossing and turning, mind racing, sleep not even within reach. Sound familiar? Sleep, like food and water is necessary for our well being. It is also one of the things that we can neglect the most.

50-70 million US adults have a sleep disorder

American Sleep Association

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In today’s society we are so go go go, all of the time. We work more, we are constantly connected to social media, there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. All of this can make it harder to sleep.

I have tried it all. Melatonin, over the counter sleep aids, none of them worked. I have found that I need a compilation of things to help me sleep. Not all of the things that work for me will necessarily work for you. So try them all and pick and choose what works for you.

First off I do not drink soda or anything with caffeine at night. What I do make sure to drink before bed is sleepy time tea. Many people say to take melatonin, that never worked for me. While Benadryl works sometimes, you shouldn’t take it regularly because it has been linked to causing dementia after prolonged use.

As busy as we all are, try to go to bed twenty minutes early. Having that extra time takes off the pressure of feeling rushed. Pick out your clothes the night before. Having one less thing to worry about in the morning can also reduce your stress.

Choose a cut off time for your phone. I set mine on do not disturb until I wake up in the morning. You can still allow select numbers to come through. Also, absolutely no social media after your cut off time.

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Before bed try some nighttime stretching or yoga. Once your ready to go to bed try a ten minute meditation. There are two apps that I use to help me fall asleep. Calm or Self and Sanity&Self.

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https://www.sanityandself.com/

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Calm can be pricey, but it offers it all. Meditation, relaxing music, and yes bedtime stories. Yes I know it sounds crazy but it works. My first bedtime story was told by Matthew McConaughey. I was asleep before I knew it. I also use their meditation sessions before bed.

Self and Sanity is also great. The best thing about this app is it offers so much more than help with sleep. One of the best things I’ve learned from this app is that I have to close out my day before I try to go to sleep. Sanity and self offer breathing exercises for before bed, meditation, relaxing music, and also bedtime stories.

Personally, I need a cold dark room to be able to sleep. If the room isn’t dark enough I use a sleep mask. It also helps me to have a fan going.

Adults need 7-9 hours of sleep

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If you are looking for a free option, you can find Jason Stephenson on Youtube. His guided meditations are phenomenal.

It will take time to discover the routine that works for you. Don’t get discouraged. The harder you try to fall asleep the harder it will be.

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