You’re standing there enjoying yourself at a concert enjoying a cool night with good music. Then the main act calls a man on stage, followed by that man’s girlfriend, and all of a sudden the man drops to his knees in front of the crowd… and you know it is about to be A BAD SINGLES MOMENT.
The entire crowd grows silent, everybody’s eyes tear up, and you’re just standing there (imaginary eye roll) going God can it be over. He continues to go over a litany of romantic things along with everything that he loves about her and then the singles moment gets even worse… He brings up her dead father at this point there’s not a dry eye in the house. (Any member of the Dead Dad’s Club will totally understand that at this moment you are trying not to cry and there is a pit in your stomach). You can feel your face start to grow warm and you just want the ground to swallow you whole. You can almost feel the pity stares directed your way. Although you are OK with being single, and pretty confident most of the time, it is moments like this that can take the wind out of your sails. Now there are definitely those people who will bore holes into you with their stares in moments like this, however how much of this is in our heads?
Being single most certainly carries a stigma with it, even in today’s day and age. That stigma, judgment, and constant pressure to rectify “the situation” in my opinion is worse for us women. You know our eggs are drying up, we won’t be able to have children and if we do they will probably be special needs, who is going to want to marry a spinster, yada, yada, yada. So, what do you do? I stare blankly ahead, making sure to show no emotion on my face. I patiently wait for this BAD SINGLES MOMENT to be over.
While this BAD SINGLES MOMENT doesn’t quite rank up there with being pushed onto the middle of a dance floor to try to catch the bouquet you really don’t want, it is still uncomfortable. We singles have many awkward moments, but it is all in how we handle it. So be mad, shut down, cry, do whatever you need to – just for a minute. Then bring on the dark quirky sense of humor and laugh. This is just a moment. Most of the time we revel in our singleness, enjoy it, love our freedom. This is just a BAD SINGLES MOMENT, this too shall pass.