How To Celebrate Valentine’s Day When You Are Single

How To Celebrate Valentine's Day When You Are Single

If you are in a relationship on Valentine’s Day, it is a time to remember all of the reasons you are together. It is a cute and happy holiday. However, if you are single you might not be so excited for Valentine’s Day. But being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to lock yourself away or not enjoy the day.
Your mood and outlook about Valentine’s Day is up to you. So choose to enjoy it! Here is a list of things to do on Valentine’s Day when you are single.

1. Sign up for a subscription box. Find something that you love and find a cool subscription box geared towards it. Single swag is one of my favorites! https://www.singlesswag.com/

Another one of my favorites is Ipsy. If you are a makeup lover definitely treat yourself to this! https://www.ipsy.com/new?cid=ppage_ref&sid=link&refer=uog94

Stitch Fix is the absolute best if you are looking to shake up your wardrobe. I have been ordering boxes from them for about 2 years. Spoil yourself for Valentine’s Day. Use this code and get $25 toward your order. https://www.stitchfix.com/referral/danieleschreier?som=c&sod=w

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2. Babysit for a couple who rarely gets a night out. Me? I love being the cool Auntie. Hang out with your nieces and nephews for the evening. I never feel more loved then when I am with those children! 

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3. Throw an Anti Valentine’s Day Party. Take a page out of Jessica Biel’s book from the movie Valentine’s Day. Get together your single friends and have a blast. Surely you are not the only one who is spending Valentine’s Day. Why not make it fun?

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4. Pamper yourself. I myself always love a good massage. A facial or pedicure will do too!

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5. Enjoy an indulgent night in. Light some candles, take a bubble bath, have a glass of wine, and enjoy some chocolate.

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6. Remember all of the reasons you love being single. While you normally love being single, you can get swept up in the loneliness of being alone on Valentine’s Day. DON’T! There are so many things that are awesome about being single. Take a minute to remember them. For example, I love being able to book a trip and get on a plane without checking in with anyone. I love being able to watch Netflix and chill with my dog whenever I want.

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7. Love yourself. Just because you are single (on Valentine’s Day no less) doesn’t mean you are unlovable. You are amazing, remind yourself of that. Above all else practice self-love.

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Single? Taken? Who cares you are awesome! Don’t let Valentine’s Day ruin your day, or even worse make you feel bad about yourself! “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde

Don’t forget to check out another post for Single Women on Valentine’s Day http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/valentines-day-for-single-women/

Responses to the question "Why are you still single"

Responses to the question “Why are you still single”

Responses to the question "Why are you still single"

We all know those people who ask inappropriate questions. When are you going to have kids, why aren’t you two married yet, and wait for it… why are you still single.

First off, let me point out that by using the word still in the question it makes it seem like there is something wrong with being single. That it is a condition that needs to be rectified. Somehow, it makes the question even more offensive.

Yes, the question with or without the word still is inappropriate. Unfortunately it is hard to avoid all nosy and/or rude people. Here are some of my favorite responses to the question why are you still single?

  •  I’m in a passionate love affair with myself. 
  • Not everyone can handle fabulous
  • My bed only has enough room for me and my dogs
  • I don’t know, why are you still married
  • Because I would rather have a significant income than a significant other
  • I’m  just lucky I guess.
  • I’m not single, I’m in a long term relationship with fun and freedom
  • Getting into a relationship seems like a good idea, but so did getting on the Titanic and look at what happened there. 
  • I’m single at heart
  • Because no company is better than bad company.

Now, remember as annoyed as we singles are by this question, rarely does the person asking mean any harm. Odds are they do not even realize that they are being rude. The important thing is to not let it bother you. Being single is amazing and liberating! Revel in your freedom.

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Dear Mr Creepy

Dear Mr Creepy

Dear Mr Creepy

Dear Mr Creepy, 

While I’m sure your intentions are good (in your mind) you are really being creepy. I mean making my skin crawl creepy. Have you ever stopped to think that this creepy behavior is exactly why you are single?

Yes no one wants a total douche bag. However women also don’t want a man who suffocates them, who we can walk all over, or who makes us physically uncomfortable. Here are several things that you should NEVER do.

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Run into her one to many creepy times.

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Unceasingly Complimenting her.

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Finding and following her on ALL of her social media accounts.

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Once finding her on those accounts, going back and liking every photo.

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Mentioning love, marriage, and/or children very early on.

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Being exceedingly attentive. (Attentiveness is great, but texting constantly, asking where a woman is/was and who she is/was with comes across as clingy and insecure).

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Ignoring obvious cues that a woman IS NOT interested.

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Continuing to pursue a woman who has finally told you she is not interested.

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While we all probably do creepy things sometimes, I do not believe we do it intentionally. The last thing any normal guy should want is to be known as that creepy guy. So let me help you to not be that creepy guy.

Listen Mr Creepy, you can be nice without being a total creepster. What you may think of as caring and sweet, might be making women run for the hills. Take a step back and ask yourself if your behavior is stalkerish. Now, by no means am I saying to be an asshole. There is a big difference between being nice, creepy, and an asshole.

Check out Online Dating Making Women Want To Stay Single for more creepy things that men do. http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/online-dating-making-women-want-to-stay-single/

Until next time…

New Years Resolutions For Singles

New Years Resolutions For Singles

New Years Resolutions For Singles

The new year is a time we all reflect on the past year. It is also a time that we look ahead and make goals for the year to come. I always find myself excited and hopeful about my upcoming year. I believe that it is truly important to focus on bettering myself and my life rather than focusing on how to find that “special someone”.  Here are New Year’s Resolutions for singles that will help you to  discover yourself  and better your life.

 

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Make a commitment to your personal self-improvement.
Have you been wanting to learn a new language? Is there a kickboxing class you have wanted to try? Make realistic goals about health, fitness, mental and emotional self-improvement and follow through on them.

Get out of your comfort zone
This New Year get out of your comfort zone. Make a conscious effort to say yes to trying new things and opening up to new opportunities.  Whether it be trying a new food or taking a class by yourself, Go for it! I have learned that the more I get out of my comfort zone the more I find things that I love.

Have a better attitude
It is easy to become bitter and pessimistic during the holidays, especially when you are single. Heading into the New Year being single, is the perfect time to be happy and optimistic about the upcoming year and all of the possibilities that it can bring. When you are bogged down with negative thoughts and expectations you are your own worst enemy. Don’t let your negativity become a self-fulfilling prophesy. 

Smile More Often

As we move through life, we can get distracted, overwhelmed, and just plain busy. Stop and take a second to smile. Not only will smiling more actually make you happier, it will positively affect those around you. As for yourself, smiling actually releases endorphins. This means you will physically feel the effects of smiling more!

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Take care of yourself

When looking at the year ahead, don’t let self care fall by the way side. I know we can get busy and overwhelmed, even by our own goals. Self-care is a must for everyone! Make a promise to yourself to take the time to practice self-care in the upcoming year. Whether it is getting a massage regularly or something as simple as going to bed a little bit earlier, this might be one of your most important resolutions!

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Leave the Past in the Past
Leaving the past in the past is something I really struggle with. I also know that this will be a resolution that I work on most. By no means am I saying that you have to forgive and forget. I am saying that in order to be healthy and happy for me I know I must stop focusing on the past and look on making a better future and living in the moment. Whether you hold anger, animosity, or resentment toward others, or you hold guilt for yourself, it is time to leave the past in the past.

There are far better things ahead than we leave in the past

C.S. Lewis

No matter what your New Year’s resolutions are, make sure they make your life better. Make yourself a promise to be a healthier and happier you! Happy New Year to you all.

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Until next time…..

7 Reasons Why Being Single On New Year's Eve Is The Best

7 Reasons Why Being Single On New Year’s Eve Is The Best

7 Reasons Why Being Single On New Year's Eve Is The Best

Embrace bringing in the New Year Solo! 

To all of my fellow singles: You have almost survived the holiday season! You are nearly done being grilled by family, friends, and co-workers over your single status. Last up? Ringing in the New Year flying solo. Many singles anguish over being single on New Year’s Eve. Why? Bringing in the New Year solo can be amazing. You can make it anything you want. 

New Year’s Eve is synonymous with PARTY! Who knows how to party better than us singles? Live it up and party like a rock star. 

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Not the party type? That’s okay too! You don’t have to fight with anyone about staying in. It’s completely up to you! Plan an awesome night in, and don’t worry about fighting with anyone about being able to stay home. 

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Forget about agonizing over the perfect New Year’s Eve with your partner. No need for high expectations (declarations of love, marriage proposals, invites to move in, etc.). You don’t have to put pressure on yourself to have that movie perfect romantic midnight kiss. 

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You can kiss whomever you want at midnight. Your best friend, sister, mom, your dog, ANYONE! That includes the hot stranger at the bar/club. 

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2019 will be your year! You don’t have to worry if you and your partners resolutions match up, torturing yourself on what milestones you need to hit this year as a couple. Plan what things you want to knock off your bucket list, how you can improve your quality of life, decide what you will do differently to be happier. 

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There is no rush. “Take as long as you want to get ready. You don’t have a significant other impatiently waiting for you. No one telling you you are taking to long. 

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You can dance all night long! I don’t know about you but I have dated some guys who hated to dance. What a buzz kill. You are single and can dance all night without a care in the world, enjoy it. 

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Whether you plan to ring in the New Year dressed to the nines partying like it’s 1999, or enjoying the night at home with delivery and pajamas, have a blast ringing in the New Year solo. 

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Until next time……
5 Ways Not To Be Used

5 Ways Not To Be Used

5 Ways Not To Be Used

Nothing hurts more than when we have put ourselves out there, only to find out we’ve been being used. The person who is using us definitely sucks as a human being, but did we set ourselves up for failure? There are things that we can do to help prevent someone from using us. Here are 5 ways not to be used.

1) Believe in patterns not apologies. We have all heard the old adage actions speak louder than words. It is sooo true! If someones actions hurt you, makes you question yourself, or make you feel more lonely than if you were alone, do not keep that person in your life!

2) Don’t fall in love with potential. People are who they are. We as women especially, can fall in love with someone’s potential. Remember a leopard doesn’t change it’s spots. You cannot excpect someone to change or be better.

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3) Believe in red flags. Trust your gut! Also trust the people who love you! If the people closest to you take issue with someone in your life, remember these are your ride or die’s. They are not trying to harm you, but protect you.

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4) Know your worth. If you undervalue yourself, it makes it easier for others to do the same. Know how valuable, amazing, and special you are! Do not ever let anyone make you forget it.

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5) Don’t lower your standards. Never lower your standards for anyone. No one is worth that sacrifice.

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At the end of the day, we cannot control the actions of others. We cannot blame ourselves for their behavior. But we can safeguard ourselves from being mistreated.

Until next time………

Surviving Christmas When You Are Single

Surviving Christmas When You Are Single

Surviving Christmas When You Are Single

Surviving Christmas when you’re single can be emotionally draining and difficult. Whether it is not wanting to show up single to events or dealing with nosy people. Which is why I’ve compiled a guide to getting through the Christmas season solo.

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First off, don’t overlook all of the benefits of being single during the Christmas season. There is no agonizing over what to but your partner, and better yet you don’t have to spend the money. Then there is the relief of not having to figure out or argue about how to split your time among the families. Best of all, you do not have to deal with the craziness of a family that is not yours!

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Having to walk into any big gathering during Christmas, whether it be a company party, or a relatives house can be daunting to say the least. You might feel like the entire room is staring at you, like some kind of spectacle. Let me tell you something, people are paying a lot less attention to you than you think. The secret is to let go and just enjoy yourself. More importantly let others enjoy you! Oh and there’s alway alcohol!

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Odds are you won’t be the only single person at these events. If you feel like you will be the only single person there, change it! Invite a friend to tag along.

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Have a comeback ready for nosy people, whether they be friends, family, or strangers. When questioning you on your love life or lack there off, remember, they are odds are not trying to be hurtful. Now of course there are some who might be, keep in mind if that is the case then they must be pretty miserable themselves. You can either answer in earnest (I haven’t found the right person yet) or in humor (I decided I didn’t want to spend a fortune on gifts this year).

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Try doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Sure, you can take all of that money you are saving on gifts and spend it on yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, facial, or pedicure. Or even better, volunteer. It is the season for giving. Not only will you be helping others, but you will automatically feel batter about yourself as well!

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Whatever you do DO NOT wallow! If you allow yourself to indulge in that negative behavior, nothing good will come of it. It will only get worse and you will find yourself on an ugly downward spiral. Plus, you don’t want people to pity you, you are to awesome for that!

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Being single is a relationship status, not a death sentence.

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So don’t freak out and don’t be a Grinch! Enjoy Christmas and your freedom to enjoy it however, wherever, and whenever you want!!

 

Until next time….

The Return Of The Douche Bag

The Return Of The Douche Bag

Do not fall for the return of the douche bag! He will come to you with fake apologies, even show you he’s not such a bad guy, he might even take you on a few dates. But at the end of the day he is still a douche bag.

He’s a legend in his own mind.  He thinks he’s a 10 when in reality he is just a sad 42-year-old man who cannot handle being with a real woman. He is incapable  of caring about the fact that he caused you embarrassment and pain.

You are nothing more than a game to him and that will never change. Now he is definitely charming, handsome, and witty so you want to believe that he is is the exception to the rule. He isn’t.

And you wonder why he can be so cruel as to play these games with you? Maybe, it’s because you make it so easy for him.

The douche bag is inherently selfish where he preys on women who will feed his ego and buys his time until he moves on to his next prey.

Don’t be too hard on yourself if you let them back in once. It’s  not your fault that he is an emotional cripple, a coward, a manipulator.

If they don’t choose you they lose you. Don’t waste your time waiting around for someone who is incapable of being a decent human being. Do not be someone’s back up plan and certainly do not be there second choice.

Please observe the douche bag in his natural habitat

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The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. … They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment.

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Sound familiar? Yes it seems like The douche bag is also a narcissist.

UPDATE: prior to me publishing this, after writing it I found out that the Douche Bag is also engaged and living with his fiance and has a child with her. He proposed to her in April of this year. He admitted everything and had the audacity to apologize and ask if we could talk. Classic Douche Bag he told me how guilty he felt because I was such an amazing woman. Lets be real what he really wants is for me not to tell her and not to publish this blog post! To late, I already spoke to his fiance, who let me know he denied the entire thing. However, I was able to send her all of the text messages, photos, and his dating profile online. Goodbye Douche Bag!

Until next time….

The 20 Most Annoying Things Single Girls Are Tired of Hearing

The 20 Most Annoying Things Single Girls Are Tired of Hearing

The 20 Most Annoying Things Single Girls Are Tired of Hearing

While people generally want to be kind and encouraging to others, sometimes they can really put their foot in their mouth. I have heard these comments made by both single and married friends, family, and people who really don’t know me well enough to comment at all. While I cannot speak for women everywhere, here is my top 20 most annoying things single girls are tired of hearing.

 

1. “You? You’re single?!”

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Gasp, I know right.

 

2.”Why aren’t you in a relationship?”

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I don’t know, I just love my dog too much.

 

3.”Maybe you’re just better off single.”

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Um? Thanks, that makes me feel so much better.

4.”Being single is so much easier anyway.”

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Then why are you in a relationship right now…? And who takes care of you when you are sick and can’t drive? Your partner? Oh right.

 

5.”Take time to work on yourself first.”

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So….what are you saying I need to fix about myself?

 

6.”Girl, you are so much better than {Fill in your ex’s name here}.”

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I know I am, but that doesn’t help me find someone new. Or feel better about wasting a year of my life with him, but thanks!

 

7.”The second you stop looking for love, it will find you.”

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Please explain to me why I haven’t been looking for quite some time and here I am still single.

 

8.”Please let me set you up, I know the perfect person for you!”

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No, no, and no. Thanks anyway. The last person I agreed to let set me up, did’t know the guy was a felon.

 

9.”Stop being so picky, maybe that’s your problem.”

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Yes, let me completely lower my standards to be miserable with anyone, just so that I can be with someone.

 

10.”Don’t worry, it’ll happen.”

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Yeah, when? In another five years?

 

11.”There are plenty of fish in the sea.”

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Well first off I’m not a fish. I also don’t live in the sea. Lastly, just because there are plenty of them doesn’t make any of them normal.

 

12.”Maybe you aren’t putting yourself out there enough.”

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Well, not that it is any of your business, but I put myself out there all the time. I just don’t like to publicize all of my rejections.

 

13.”You just haven’t found the right person yet.”

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You don’t say…

 

14.”Everything happens for a reason.”

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That is possibly the least helpful, unoriginal advice ever. Also, now you have put me in an awkward position because there is no appropriate answer to this.

 

15. Well you should try this dating app instead, and let me see who you are choosing. They probably are the wrong choices.

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I’m sorry, are you single? Have you ever even used a dating app? I feel so much better, that you know me better than I know myself, of course you should swipe for me.

 

16. Do you really want to end up alone?

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Oh, I didn’t know because I am single at the moment, that means I will be single for the rest of my life. And if I do, would that really be the WORST thing in the world?

 

17. Be careful, or you will end up the old cat lady, followed by hysterical laughter.

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Oh my God, you are so funny, no one has ever said that to me before. Also, obviously you don’t know me very well. I will be the old DOG lady. Plus, animals are way better than people.

 

18. You know you do not need a man to have a baby, you should think about it before you get to old.

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What? Really? Why would you think that is an okay statement to make to anyone? Ever?  Enough said.

 

19. And that is why she is is still single.

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While not directed at you it still is very irritating. Here’s why: First of all it implies that there is something wrong with the social status of being single, Second of all, now I am wondering what you say about why I am STILL single when I am not around, and Third of all have you ever thought maybe she WANTS to be single?

20. You must have so much time on your hands.

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Yes, we singles do not have time we need to spend with a partner, and some of us do not have children to raise. We are however, not sitting around twiddling out thumbs with all of this extra time. We do not have anyone to help us with the chores, grocery shopping, upkeep of our vehicles, homes etc. We also have amazingly full lives. I myself spend time with family, friends, I travel when I can. Most of us also have careers. I mentor a little girl once a week. So keep this in mind the next time you want to make such a silly comment.

 

Most of us have experienced that awkward moment when well meaning people try to comfort “us singles”. Whether it be with words of encouragement, invasive questions (meant to find the root of our “problem”), or promises about our future. Rarely does it ever have their desired effect. I’d say about 99% of the time it is an epic fail. So the next time you are conversing with a single woman keep these comments in mind.

 

Until next time…..

10 First Date Tips For Women

10 First Date Tips For Women

 

 

 

10 First Date Tips For WomenDating today can feel like walking through a mine field. Whether it is online dating or IRL dating can be confusing and anxiety producing, especially the first date. Well here are some timeless tips to make it easier.  Here are 10 First Date Tips For Women.

1. Be yourself and  Relax. Easier said than done, I know. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be something you are not. Don’t try to be the version of yourself you wish you were. He is here because he sees something in the real you.

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2. Dress appropriately And attractively. First impressions matter! Wear something that makes you feel confident and truly great about yourself. Don’t wear something that will make you physically uncomfortable like heals to the beach. Make him work for it, don’t wear something that is going to reveal all of your goods (don’t dress to revealing). Just as dressing overly sexy can be an issue, not looking date-ready at all can also be a turnoff.

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3. Mind your manners. First impressions matter! Show up on time, be polite to the waitstaff, and give your date your undivided attention.

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4. Turn the volume off on your phone. You do not want your alerts, texts, or calls to distract either of you from the date. Do not keep checking your phone either. Yes, use it to check in and let someone know where you are and that you are okay, otherwise leave your phone alone.

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5. Let him lead and cut him some slack.  Let him pay, open doors, pull out your chair. (Yes, I’m old school). Remember that he’s likely nervous and is trying to figure out first-date rules, too.  So if he is faltering help him out.

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6.Have a code word. I know it sounds crazy but that is the world we live in. Don’t just text I’m alive, fine, blah, blah, blah. Have a code word for being okay so your loved ones really know it is you sending the message. Don’t let yourself get stuck with a certified creeper.

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7. Be present. Show interest in your date and be an active listener. Nothing is going to be a bigger turn off than a girl who is completely distracted on the first date. Engage him in conversation, without making it all about you.

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8. Address the elephant in the room.  If something is making you uncomfortable, speak up. Awkward silence, your mind goes blank, wish you hadn’t just said something that flew out of your mouth? Speak up.  Not only will you feel better, you will make him more comfortable, too.

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9. Establish boundaries. Boundaries include oversharing and physical boundaries. Don’t overshare, this is only the first date. If it is meant to be you will have plenty of time to share. Establish physical boundaries. If you want more than a one night stand sex on the first date is not a good idea.

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10. Don’t drink too much. One drink is fine, maybe two at the most. Don’t drink too much because you don’t want to look sloppy. More importantly you don’t want to put yourself in a dangerous situation. Don’t forget this is a stranger.

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Until next time…..