Fall Bucket List

Ultimate Fall Bucket List

Fall Bucket List

I don’t know about you but Fall is my favorite time of year. While I love Fall as a whole, Halloween is my favorite part of Fall. There is so much to do in the Fall, I decided to make a Fall Bucket List, so that I didn’t miss out on anything.

A couple of these will be Florida specific, but the majority you can find anywhere.

Living in Florida the summertime can be brutal. With Fall literally right around the corner, I cannot wait for cooler weather. With the cooler weather coming I can’t help but get excited about the fall cooking, festivals, and my favorite Halloween festivities.

Being the Halloween lover that I am, of course these festivities are at the top of my Fall Bucket List. I already have my tickets for both Halloween Horror Nights and Howl-o-scream. Next on my list is putting together an epic Halloween costume. You are never to old for Halloween, if you haven’t scored an invite to a Halloween party, throw your own!

Check out Halloween Horror Nights here https://orlando.halloweenhorrornights.com/site/

Check out Howl-o-scream here https://buschgardens.com/tampa/events/howl-o-scream/

And the baking, you can’t forget the baking! Here are a few of my favorites:

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Bloody cupcakes
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Brownie graveyard
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Peanut butter spider cookies

Okay, last Halloween one I promise. Costumes for your fur babies. It’s a must!

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My baby Echo

Okay, on to all other things Fall. Cook something warm for the cool weather. One of my favorites is beef barley soup.

Beef barley soup with challa bread.

Looking for some inexpensive things to add to your Fall Bucket List? Give these a try.

Fall arts and crafts. Don’t worry it’s for fun, it doesn’t need to be a work of art.

I made this using apples for the leaves.

Campfires and smores. This is inexpensive and a great time.

Go for a hike and enjoy the weather, nature, and just unplug.

Go to a pumpkin patch and pick pumpkins. Then when you get home you can bake the seeds and carve the pumpkins.

Fresh baked pumpkin seeds

We can all benefit from looking at our lives and seeing all that we have to be grateful for. This year for Fall, try a gratitude jar. Write down something that you are grateful for every day and drop it in your gratitude jar.

Make a DIY Fall wreath. I haven’t done this one yet, but it’s on my bucket list.

Find local Fall Festivals and go check them out.

Make candied apples. There are so many choices here, Carmel or chocolate, sprinkles or peanuts, the list goes on and on.

For all of you non Florida people, I truly envy you during the fall season. These are for you.

Jump in a leaf pile.

Collect colored leaves.

Craft with the leaves you collected.

Go apple picking.

Bake a pie, if you don’t like apple try pumpkin or pecan.

Burn fall scented candles.

Try making your own Fall Bucket List using this free printable http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Fall-Bucket-List.pdf

Are there Fall Bucket Lists that I missed? Let me know! Comment below.

Until next time…..

live a balanced life

HOW TO LIVE A BALANCED LIFE AS A WORKING WOMAN

live a balanced life

I don’t know about you, but there’s days I leave work and am so mentally exhausted I don’t feel like I have anything left. While I do not have children, I do have two dogs, a boyfriend, friends, and family. For a long time I knew I wasn’t living a balanced life. Finally, I got fed up and knew I had to change. Here’s some tips on how to live a balanced life.

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Finding balance sounds easy, but it takes work. Believe it or not, it takes planning. I make sure to plan for the week so that I can balance my life. Check out my Week Of Fabulous Planner.

This planner helps you to track your appointments, goals, self-care, exercise, budget, and more. This is a perfect tool to help you live a balanced life.

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* Learn to say NO!

You can’t live a balanced life if you are living for everyone else. When you do say no, DON’T apologize for it!

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* Try to keep a positive mental attitude.

We all know the saying we make plans, and God laughs. Life is full of the unexpected. Let go of the things you can’t control.

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* Prioritize.

What is truly important to you?

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* When you leave work don’t bring it home with you.

I know, this is much harder than it sounds. I have struggled with this for years. It is still something I struggle with, but I try to work on every day.

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* All work and no play is a sure fire way to live an unbalanced life.

Whether it be something small like an extra long shower, or something bigger like a pedicure after a long day you time is necessary for living a balanced life.

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* Ask for help

There is absolutely NO shame in asking for help. I had a very hard time asking for help and would try to do EVERYTHING myself. There would be times I would literally cry because it was to much. It took time and work, but now I ask for help.Whether it be at work, with my boyfriend, or with my family, I ask for help.

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Be conscious of how you spend your time. Whether you are at work or out with friends be fully present. Give 100% when at work, and don’t be constantly checking your phone for emails when with friends.

As women we are expected to do it all, have a career, practice self-care, take care of our families, cook, clean, the list goes on and on. As crazy as life gets and as busy as we are balance is achievable. And remember no one can do it all.

Check out Go The F*** To Sleep http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/shut-the-f-up-and-go-to-sleep/

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SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP
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Laying in bed tossing and turning, mind racing, sleep not even within reach. Sound familiar? Sleep, like food and water is necessary for our well being. It is also one of the things that we can neglect the most.

50-70 million US adults have a sleep disorder

American Sleep Association

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In today’s society we are so go go go, all of the time. We work more, we are constantly connected to social media, there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. All of this can make it harder to sleep.

I have tried it all. Melatonin, over the counter sleep aids, none of them worked. I have found that I need a compilation of things to help me sleep. Not all of the things that work for me will necessarily work for you. So try them all and pick and choose what works for you.

First off I do not drink soda or anything with caffeine at night. What I do make sure to drink before bed is sleepy time tea. Many people say to take melatonin, that never worked for me. While Benadryl works sometimes, you shouldn’t take it regularly because it has been linked to causing dementia after prolonged use.

As busy as we all are, try to go to bed twenty minutes early. Having that extra time takes off the pressure of feeling rushed. Pick out your clothes the night before. Having one less thing to worry about in the morning can also reduce your stress.

Choose a cut off time for your phone. I set mine on do not disturb until I wake up in the morning. You can still allow select numbers to come through. Also, absolutely no social media after your cut off time.

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Before bed try some nighttime stretching or yoga. Once your ready to go to bed try a ten minute meditation. There are two apps that I use to help me fall asleep. Calm or Self and Sanity&Self.

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https://www.sanityandself.com/

https://www.calm.com/

Calm can be pricey, but it offers it all. Meditation, relaxing music, and yes bedtime stories. Yes I know it sounds crazy but it works. My first bedtime story was told by Matthew McConaughey. I was asleep before I knew it. I also use their meditation sessions before bed.

Self and Sanity is also great. The best thing about this app is it offers so much more than help with sleep. One of the best things I’ve learned from this app is that I have to close out my day before I try to go to sleep. Sanity and self offer breathing exercises for before bed, meditation, relaxing music, and also bedtime stories.

Personally, I need a cold dark room to be able to sleep. If the room isn’t dark enough I use a sleep mask. It also helps me to have a fan going.

Adults need 7-9 hours of sleep

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If you are looking for a free option, you can find Jason Stephenson on Youtube. His guided meditations are phenomenal.

It will take time to discover the routine that works for you. Don’t get discouraged. The harder you try to fall asleep the harder it will be.

On a lighter note check out Samuel L Jackson reading Shut The F*** Up And Go To Sleep. https://youtu.be/ma-7jb9vEjA

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Check out Hot To Get A Good Night’s Sleep After A Breakup http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/tips-for-getting-a-good-nights-sleep-after-a-breakup/

WHY I DID GOAT YOGA FOR MY BIRTHDAY

WHY I DID GOAT YOGA FOR MY BIRTHDAY

Several years ago my mother, sister, and I decided to do things together instead of just exchanging gifts for birthdays. The birthday girl gets to chose an event to go to as a group. That’s just the beginning of why I did goat yoga for my birthday. 

It was actually my sister who found the goat yoga class. We signed up through Goat Yoga Of Tampa Bay. The class was held at The Loop Brewing. All we needed to bring was a yoga mat. Although we didn’t know exactly what to expect we were very excited.

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My favorite yoga mat

When we pulled up the first thing we saw was an adorable building beautifully painted. We continued to the back where class would be. The view was amazing. You looked out over the water surrounded by huge trees. String lights filled the trees. I couldn’t have asked for a better location. Staff members were there helping us to see where to set up our yoga mats and let us know what to expect. They were all so friendly we were immediately put at ease.

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Amazing view looking up while doing yoga.
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Gorgeous view from the back of The Loop Brewing

The yoga instructor radiated positive energy. You couldn’t help but feel comfortable around her. Normally, I am very uncomfortable in social situations. Not this time. My mother, sister, and I sat right up front. The goats were led in and the fun began.

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When first deciding to do goat yoga for my birthday, I was really excited about the goats. I never imagined that the yoga class itself would have impacted me so much. The class began, and I could slowly start to feel myself become calm and centered. My breathing changed and my head cleared. I felt at peace.

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That’s me all the way on the right. My sister is the one surrounded by goats.
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The instructor really inspired me to want to continue to do yoga. She taught us Pranayama breathing. That is something I was able to take with me after the class. For someone who suffers from terrible anxiety those breathing exercises will continue to help me.

Last but certainly not least, after the yoga class ended we were able to take photos with the goats. After that we were offered a complimentary beer or sangria. To top it off they were giving out free samples of an amazing sparkling rose. It was a perfect end to a perfect morning.

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My family and I decided that spending time together experiencing new things was way better than just exchanging birthday gifts. I must admit we have done some amazing things together. Goat yoga however, was by far my favorite. If you haven’t tried it yet, what are you waiting for?

Check out Goat Yoga Of Tampa Bay https://www.facebook.com/goatyogatampa/

Check out The Loop Brewing https://intheloopbrewingcompany.com/

How To Survive Negativity

How To Survive Negativity

How To Survive Negativity

I don’t know about you, but there have definitely been times in my life when the negativity around me threatened to engulf me. As hard as it is not succumbing to the negativity being thrown your way, it is in the end your choice. And believe me the ones surrounding you with negative vibes, want nothing more than for you to drown in it. So here are some ways on how to survive negativity. 

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Family, friends, co-workers, romantic partners, it doesn’t matter who it is, stay away from negative people. Your response to me on that..I can’t just cut out my family, co-workers etc. You don’t have to necessarily. You can limit your interactions with them, or end an interaction when the negative vibes start coming.

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While it might seem personal, negative people in your life do not have a problem with you. Odds are they have a problem with themselves, hence why they are always negative. Not taking it personally is way harder than it sounds. I am infamous for taking things personally. It is something I work on daily.

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There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it is with themselves.     
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Start spending time with people who are positive. As we get older, it is harder to meet new people and make new friends. Actively seeking out positive people is important though.

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This next one is the hardest for me. Only you have control over how you react to situations that come your way. Change the way you think and change the way that you react. It is impossible to have a positive life with a negative attitude.

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Change the way you think, more importantly change the way you talk to yourself. Although these thoughts are automatic with practice and time, you can change them. How you think will directly affects how you live.

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When you run into Debbie Downer, Negative Nancy or Pessimistic Patty run! Negativity will envelope you before you know it given the chance. These are just a few ways that I survive negativity.

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

How I Live With Crippling Anxiety

Only those who suffer from anxiety can truly understand how frightening and horrific it is. Suddenly you feel like you cannot breathe, you feel like you need to break open your chest to get some relief, the feeling of crawling out of your skin, breaking out in a sweat, and overwhelming dizziness. Living with anxiety can make you feel crazy and broken. But, you are not! Here is how I live with crippling anxiety.

The scariest thing to do is talk about having anxiety. People are terrified of looking crazy, not perfect, or damaged. Having anxiety doesn’t make you any of those things. And believe it or not, many people around you odds are suffer from anxiety too. It is important to find someone that also suffers from anxiety that you can talk to.

Although many people do not like going to the doctor or taking medication, I have found that it is necessary in helping me to control my anxiety. While, I do not solely depend on medication to deal with my anxiety, it is a big part of keeping it under control.

Another instrumental tool I use in battling my anxiety is exercise. Whether it be just going for a long walk, or going to the gym for an intense work out, excising helps. I can feel the difference when I work out and when I don’t.

Breathing. It sounds easy, I know. But it isn’t always. So, I take a step back and tell myself to breath. Specifically, I try t use the 5-7-9 method of breathing. Inhale for 5 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale for 9 seconds.

Get enough sleep. People make fun of me all of the time because I am almost militant about getting enough sleep. I do not budge on this because I know how important it is to keep my anxiety under control.

My sister actually taught me this one and it works. Multiplication tables. I know it sounds weird but it truly helps. Counting backwards also helps.

Anxiety can be immobilizing. Living with anxiety can seem unbearable, but you can live a normal and happy life with anxiety. You just need to find what works for you.

If you need help check out the Anxiety And Depression Association Of America https://adaa.org/living-with-anxiety

Don’t miss my post on living with mental illness http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/living-with-mental-illness/

Flawesome Award

Flawesome Award

Flawesome Award

I was nominated to do this tag award by Help Momma Sparkle. So first let me tell you what the flawesome award is. It celebrates the flaws that make us so damn fabulous! We are always seeing people awarded for achievements and successes. This is such a unique way of celebrating our quirks.

So the rules are:
– Link back the Creator.
– Display the Award.
– List 3 flaws.
– Tag 10 people

Now I have to give credit to the creator of this award.

Sophia Ismaa Writes.  https://sophiaismaa.wordpress.com/2018/08/31/the-flawesome-award/

I absolutely love her philosophy behind this award.

“How many times do we see an award that celebrates all things bright and shiny and sunny in a person? How often do we forget that our weaknesses can be a strength? Our flaws make us human, our flaws tell us more about who we are, and in turn we turn those flaws into awesome strengths. In short, our flaws make us #flawesome.”

So now the moment you have all been waiting for…. my flaws.

  1. I over analyze everything. I mean conversations, things I have or am about to publish, things people say to me…everything. I truly believe this is because I worry about everything. I over analyze situations, because I am afraid of what will happen if I am not prepared for it.

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2. Despite me doing a very good job of hiding it, I care what everyone thinks. I hate when someone doesn’t like me.

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3.  I have crippling  social anxiety. worrying about being negatively judged, evaluated, and viewed by others makes social situations very awkward.

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So basically, my flaws boil down to I think too much and feel too deeply.

Check out the awesome creator Sophia Ismaa https://sophiaismaa.wordpress.com/2018/08/31/the-flawesome-award/
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The Dangers of Eyelash Extensions

The Dangers of Eyelash Extensions

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Let’s face it, we as women will spend exorbitant amounts of time and money to be “prettier” and look the way we “should”. Now don’t get me wrong, I myself consider some of the things we put ourselves through to be self care. However, some practices cross a line, especially when they have physical hazards.

Society tell us to look a certain way, and we not only listen but we spent countless hours and a ton of money to do so.

I don’t know about you, but I keep my fingers and toes done at all times. That means going to a salon twice a month for two hours costing about $85. I get Keratin treatment for my hair every 3 months sitting in a salon for about 5 hours. That costs about $200. I also get my hair colored regularly taking about an hour and a half costing about $100. This does not include the occasional facial or all of the products we use.

While getting my nails one day, the woman doing my nails asked if I wanted to get eyelash extensions. I of course said yes, even though I had beautiful eyelashes at the time. I had to schedule a time to come back because it takes about 2 hours for your first set. The cost was insane, but I wanted beautiful long eyelashes that looked great all of the time.

In the very beginning they looked great and I was getting complimented all of the time. I ignored that I was spending a fortune, because I had to get a fill every two weeks. As time went on, and I began to get itchy eyes after getting my fills, I ignored that too. Then the real kicker came, I left the salon and as the day went on, my eyes began to itch terribly and began to swell. I tried taking Benadryl and putting ice packs on me eyes to no avail.

It was time for me to go to the emergency clinic. So while I had to explain to the doctor what happened, quite embarrassed, he looked at me like I was crazy for subjecting myself to the process. He asked me if there was a way to remove them, there wasn’t. Antibiotics and steroids it was. After a few days all symptoms went away and I had my great eyelashes.

Now that I was addicted to my new eyelashes, I stupidly chalked my reaction up to a one time thing, since I had done it for so long without issue. I went back again and the same thing happened. Back to the doctor I went. I was now warned that the reactions would only continue to get worse. Round two antibiotics and steroids.

Now I began to do some online research, and what I found was horrifying. But I can be quite stubborn, so I tried tips from others on how to avoid a reaction. I took Benadryl prior to my eyelash fill, and when I was done. I iced my eyes almost immediately. Finally, I released  I had to stop because IT WAS ONLY GOING TO GET WORSE!

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As time went on I began to lose the last of my extensions. I looked in the mirror and panicked. My real eyelashes had been falling out and were damaged overall. Now I had to figure out how to fix the mess I made.

Back to researching I went. To my surprise there were a few alternatives. Eye lash serum was one. I have begun to use a serum myself. If you wash an old mascara tube well, along with the applicator you can fill it with castor oil and apply nightly. Work with what you have and use an eyelash primer and mascara.

I use Hairgenics Lavish Lash. I put it on right before bed every night (when I remember).

They say to put mascara on while your primer is still wet, but I was told by an Ulta associate to use while primer is still wet. I love this primer!

Fantastic mascara and I love this applicator!

We all want to be beautiful, to be our best, and to fit society’s definition of what we should be. But we must ask ourselves, at what cost to ourselves? In addition to an allergic reaction, you are also putting yourself at risk for bacterial and fungal infections. The cost is just another factor that could persuade women that this is not a good option.

Don’t be stubborn like me. Forget about eyelash extensions and embrace eyelash serums, primer, and mascara. Enjoy spending that $120-$300 on something else to pamper yourself with.

 

Until next time…

Finding Friends In The Adult World

Finding Friends In The Adult World


Making friends when you are younger is so easy, it happens naturally with not much effort. Lets face it making friends as an adult is about as appealing as going to the dentist. You have to do it, you know it will be good for you, and it’s healthy but ugh having to go out and actually do it. Finding friends in the adult world sucks!

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If you thought cliques and mean girls would no longer be a part of your life after high school, boy were you wrong. Whether it’s work, other moms, or even family members, the cliques and mean girls live on after high school. In addition to the cliques and mean girls many of us have to overcome our own personalities. Not everyone is a social butterfly.

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So, how are we supposed to find friends in the adult world?

I am an introvert who is completely comfortable watching TV  with her dog. It sounds weird I know. That doesn’t mean I do not like to try new things and visit new places. Leaving my room or my dungeon as my friends affectionately call it is not always on the top of my list.

Step 1
YOU NEED TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE!

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Step 2
Nurture Your Existing Friendships
Friendships like any relationship will ebb and flow. Reciprocity is key. You need to reach out to the friends you already have. Arrange a brunch or get together.

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Step 3
Network
The majority of my adulthood friends I met through networking. When you are at a social or family gathering get out there and socialize. Bizarrely enough several of my really good friends I met through an ex, they are the best thing I got out of that relationship.

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Step 4
Use your kids – yes this includes your fur babies 
Moms will have to socialize with other moms whether they like it or not. There are play dates, school events, extra curriculars, etc. Take that time to see if you mesh with some of these moms. Fur baby moms – go to the dog park. You know you already have something important in common.

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Step 5
Volunteer
Volunteering is not only a way to meet friends but will also make you feel good about yourself. Now I know, it’s not like you don’t have a million other things to do. But you can do something good for others, while meeting people with similar interests.

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As we get older it is no loner necessary to have many friends. It is more important to have a handful of great friends. Yes, it is easier said than done, but you need to get out there. Find your tribe!

We all know that there is an app for everything. Well now there are several apps for finding friends. I am going to try a few and will let you know how it goes. Look for my follow up blog on these apps.

 

Until next time….

 

My Overachiever Attitude Is Really Insecurity

My Overachiever Attitude Is Really Insecurity

My Overachiever Attitude Is Really Insecurity

For as long as I can remember, being good enough is something I have struggled with. Being pretty enough, being smart enough, being liked enough, all things I never believed that I was. Damage from childhood and past relationships continued to make me doubt myself. I have journeyed for the past three years to overcome this mindset. As I continue on my journey I have realized that my overachiever attitude is really insecurity.

Due to my crippling insecurity, I work ten times as hard as most in order to not just get accilades, but more importantly to avoid criticism. Criticism, even constructive criticism can be debilitating to someone with low self esteem. I was the fastest moving up manager at a restaurant that I used to manage. When I decided to go back to school, I graduated with my Bachelor’s Degree on President’s List. While these are all accomplishments to be proud of, I find myself obsessing over my successes so I do not fail.

Of course this sounds good in theory, but at what expense? This overachiever attitude leads to an extremely high stress level and a limited work to personal time ratio. I find that this overachiever attitude also pertains to my friendships, family relationships, and romantic relationships. Always trying to please everyone, I often find myself exhausted and not truly happy. Yet, my insecurity and the thought of angering others, it has always been easier not to say no. Granted, I feel like this is a trait many women have, always wanting to make others happy.

My overachiever attitude really being insecurity was a hard pill for me to swallow. However, realizing what the ugly truth is, allows me to work on changing it. Now don’t get me wrong, I will never be good with criticism and not caring what others think. I will be able to not make myself crazy by overachieving to offset my insecurities.

Without acknowledging it, facing it, and changing it, my insecurity will always be masked by my overachiever attitude.

 

Until Next Time…