Fall Bucket List

Ultimate Fall Bucket List

Fall Bucket List

I don’t know about you but Fall is my favorite time of year. While I love Fall as a whole, Halloween is my favorite part of Fall. There is so much to do in the Fall, I decided to make a Fall Bucket List, so that I didn’t miss out on anything.

A couple of these will be Florida specific, but the majority you can find anywhere.

Living in Florida the summertime can be brutal. With Fall literally right around the corner, I cannot wait for cooler weather. With the cooler weather coming I can’t help but get excited about the fall cooking, festivals, and my favorite Halloween festivities.

Being the Halloween lover that I am, of course these festivities are at the top of my Fall Bucket List. I already have my tickets for both Halloween Horror Nights and Howl-o-scream. Next on my list is putting together an epic Halloween costume. You are never to old for Halloween, if you haven’t scored an invite to a Halloween party, throw your own!

Check out Halloween Horror Nights here https://orlando.halloweenhorrornights.com/site/

Check out Howl-o-scream here https://buschgardens.com/tampa/events/howl-o-scream/

And the baking, you can’t forget the baking! Here are a few of my favorites:

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Bloody cupcakes
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Brownie graveyard
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Peanut butter spider cookies

Okay, last Halloween one I promise. Costumes for your fur babies. It’s a must!

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My baby Echo

Okay, on to all other things Fall. Cook something warm for the cool weather. One of my favorites is beef barley soup.

Beef barley soup with challa bread.

Looking for some inexpensive things to add to your Fall Bucket List? Give these a try.

Fall arts and crafts. Don’t worry it’s for fun, it doesn’t need to be a work of art.

I made this using apples for the leaves.

Campfires and smores. This is inexpensive and a great time.

Go for a hike and enjoy the weather, nature, and just unplug.

Go to a pumpkin patch and pick pumpkins. Then when you get home you can bake the seeds and carve the pumpkins.

Fresh baked pumpkin seeds

We can all benefit from looking at our lives and seeing all that we have to be grateful for. This year for Fall, try a gratitude jar. Write down something that you are grateful for every day and drop it in your gratitude jar.

Make a DIY Fall wreath. I haven’t done this one yet, but it’s on my bucket list.

Find local Fall Festivals and go check them out.

Make candied apples. There are so many choices here, Carmel or chocolate, sprinkles or peanuts, the list goes on and on.

For all of you non Florida people, I truly envy you during the fall season. These are for you.

Jump in a leaf pile.

Collect colored leaves.

Craft with the leaves you collected.

Go apple picking.

Bake a pie, if you don’t like apple try pumpkin or pecan.

Burn fall scented candles.

Try making your own Fall Bucket List using this free printable http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Fall-Bucket-List.pdf

Are there Fall Bucket Lists that I missed? Let me know! Comment below.

Until next time…..

live a balanced life

HOW TO LIVE A BALANCED LIFE AS A WORKING WOMAN

live a balanced life

I don’t know about you, but there’s days I leave work and am so mentally exhausted I don’t feel like I have anything left. While I do not have children, I do have two dogs, a boyfriend, friends, and family. For a long time I knew I wasn’t living a balanced life. Finally, I got fed up and knew I had to change. Here’s some tips on how to live a balanced life.

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Finding balance sounds easy, but it takes work. Believe it or not, it takes planning. I make sure to plan for the week so that I can balance my life. Check out my Week Of Fabulous Planner.

This planner helps you to track your appointments, goals, self-care, exercise, budget, and more. This is a perfect tool to help you live a balanced life.

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* Learn to say NO!

You can’t live a balanced life if you are living for everyone else. When you do say no, DON’T apologize for it!

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* Try to keep a positive mental attitude.

We all know the saying we make plans, and God laughs. Life is full of the unexpected. Let go of the things you can’t control.

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* Prioritize.

What is truly important to you?

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* When you leave work don’t bring it home with you.

I know, this is much harder than it sounds. I have struggled with this for years. It is still something I struggle with, but I try to work on every day.

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* All work and no play is a sure fire way to live an unbalanced life.

Whether it be something small like an extra long shower, or something bigger like a pedicure after a long day you time is necessary for living a balanced life.

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* Ask for help

There is absolutely NO shame in asking for help. I had a very hard time asking for help and would try to do EVERYTHING myself. There would be times I would literally cry because it was to much. It took time and work, but now I ask for help.Whether it be at work, with my boyfriend, or with my family, I ask for help.

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Be conscious of how you spend your time. Whether you are at work or out with friends be fully present. Give 100% when at work, and don’t be constantly checking your phone for emails when with friends.

As women we are expected to do it all, have a career, practice self-care, take care of our families, cook, clean, the list goes on and on. As crazy as life gets and as busy as we are balance is achievable. And remember no one can do it all.

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Tips For Getting a Good Night’s Sleep After a Breakup

I am so excited to share this guest post with you. Christine Huegel is going to share with us how to get a good night’s sleep after a breakup.

Tips For Getting a Good Night's Sleep After a Break Up
Christine Huegel
Tips For Getting a Good Night's Sleep After a Break Up

Anyone who has ever been through a breakup knows that they can be pretty rough. Whether it came by surprise or it was something you’d been preparing for, breaking the close, emotional bond you had developed with your ex can be both mentally and physically devastating. While breakups are typically for the best, you will have to cope with the pain of a broken heart and feelings of loneliness, longing, and possibly even anger. In addition, the difficult emotions that come along with breakups often take a toll on one’s physical health.

Post-breakup insomnia

One health issue that many experience after a breakup is known as “post-breakup insomnia.” Unfortunately, post-breakup insomnia is a condition that is often detrimental to one’s overall health and wellbeing. Without the proper amount of sleep, our bodies are unable to undergo the restorative processes required for healthy emotional regulation and proper organ functioning. After a break up, your emotions are already out of whack – so, when you add sleep deprivation into the mix, you’re body is simply unable to regulate and combat all those negative emotions. This lack of sleep can lead to increased feelings of anxiety and depression and make moving on from the split feel impossible. Meanwhile, the emotional strain of a breakup coupled with the effects of insomnia can cause you to push away the people you love and become isolated from your support group. Aside from elevated feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness, not receiving enough sleep can also impact your performance at work or school – which can cause a host of separate issues in your life.

How to get a good night’s sleep after the split

Overall, achieving a healthy sleep cycle after a breakup can be the key to moving on and starting the next chapter of your life. Following these tips will help prevent post-breakup insomnia and ensure that you get a clean start:

Start meditating.

Meditation is an incredibly useful tool to deal with any of the stressors life throws your way, especially breakups, because it re-trains your mind and body. Through controlled breathing and the repetition of mantras, meditation alters the way your body responds to stress. Practicing this powerful therapy before bed will calm your thoughts, create an inner-quiet, and allow you to fall asleep faster.

Start a before-bed gratitude journal.

The negative thoughts and emotions of a breakup can sneak up at the end of the night and prevent you from falling asleep. Starting a bedtime gratitude journal will allow you to change those negative thought patterns into positive ones and get a peaceful night’s rest. We recommend that you write down three things you are grateful for and one reason you are special in your journal every night at bedtime.

Find someone to talk to.

Breakups can be traumatic – and they can cause us more pain than we realize. Therapy, whether in a group or one-on-one with a counselor, will provide you with the tools you need to move past the emotional damage experienced in a breakup.

Try aromatherapy at bedtime.

Studies have found that certain essential oils encourage sleep. In addition, essential oils have also been shown to improve mood and dampen the effects of stress and anxiety. Try putting the following oils in your diffuser at bedtime to help reduce stress and promote sleep:

  • Lavender
  • Cedarwood
  • Chamomile
  • Lemon Balm

Although breakup-related insomnia is an issue that many face, it doesn’t mean that it’s inevitable. Listening to your body, focusing on your inner peace, and making your health a priority will allow you to achieve a beneficial nights sleep on a regular basis. And, eventually, this breakup will become part of your past and you will move on with your life. Distance and time will allow your wounds to heal and you will begin a new, more promising chapter of life.

Well I hope you enjoyed our first guest post. And hopefully you’ve learned some great tricks to a good night’s sleep after a breakup.

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SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP

SHUT THE F*** UP AND GO TO SLEEP
A frustrated tired woman hides her head in her pillow and screams beacuse she can’t sleep. Isolated on white.

Laying in bed tossing and turning, mind racing, sleep not even within reach. Sound familiar? Sleep, like food and water is necessary for our well being. It is also one of the things that we can neglect the most.

50-70 million US adults have a sleep disorder

American Sleep Association

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In today’s society we are so go go go, all of the time. We work more, we are constantly connected to social media, there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. All of this can make it harder to sleep.

I have tried it all. Melatonin, over the counter sleep aids, none of them worked. I have found that I need a compilation of things to help me sleep. Not all of the things that work for me will necessarily work for you. So try them all and pick and choose what works for you.

First off I do not drink soda or anything with caffeine at night. What I do make sure to drink before bed is sleepy time tea. Many people say to take melatonin, that never worked for me. While Benadryl works sometimes, you shouldn’t take it regularly because it has been linked to causing dementia after prolonged use.

As busy as we all are, try to go to bed twenty minutes early. Having that extra time takes off the pressure of feeling rushed. Pick out your clothes the night before. Having one less thing to worry about in the morning can also reduce your stress.

Choose a cut off time for your phone. I set mine on do not disturb until I wake up in the morning. You can still allow select numbers to come through. Also, absolutely no social media after your cut off time.

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Before bed try some nighttime stretching or yoga. Once your ready to go to bed try a ten minute meditation. There are two apps that I use to help me fall asleep. Calm or Self and Sanity&Self.

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https://www.sanityandself.com/

https://www.calm.com/

Calm can be pricey, but it offers it all. Meditation, relaxing music, and yes bedtime stories. Yes I know it sounds crazy but it works. My first bedtime story was told by Matthew McConaughey. I was asleep before I knew it. I also use their meditation sessions before bed.

Self and Sanity is also great. The best thing about this app is it offers so much more than help with sleep. One of the best things I’ve learned from this app is that I have to close out my day before I try to go to sleep. Sanity and self offer breathing exercises for before bed, meditation, relaxing music, and also bedtime stories.

Personally, I need a cold dark room to be able to sleep. If the room isn’t dark enough I use a sleep mask. It also helps me to have a fan going.

Adults need 7-9 hours of sleep

American Sleep Association

If you are looking for a free option, you can find Jason Stephenson on Youtube. His guided meditations are phenomenal.

It will take time to discover the routine that works for you. Don’t get discouraged. The harder you try to fall asleep the harder it will be.

On a lighter note check out Samuel L Jackson reading Shut The F*** Up And Go To Sleep. https://youtu.be/ma-7jb9vEjA

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WHY I DID GOAT YOGA FOR MY BIRTHDAY

WHY I DID GOAT YOGA FOR MY BIRTHDAY

Several years ago my mother, sister, and I decided to do things together instead of just exchanging gifts for birthdays. The birthday girl gets to chose an event to go to as a group. That’s just the beginning of why I did goat yoga for my birthday. 

It was actually my sister who found the goat yoga class. We signed up through Goat Yoga Of Tampa Bay. The class was held at The Loop Brewing. All we needed to bring was a yoga mat. Although we didn’t know exactly what to expect we were very excited.

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My favorite yoga mat

When we pulled up the first thing we saw was an adorable building beautifully painted. We continued to the back where class would be. The view was amazing. You looked out over the water surrounded by huge trees. String lights filled the trees. I couldn’t have asked for a better location. Staff members were there helping us to see where to set up our yoga mats and let us know what to expect. They were all so friendly we were immediately put at ease.

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Amazing view looking up while doing yoga.
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Gorgeous view from the back of The Loop Brewing

The yoga instructor radiated positive energy. You couldn’t help but feel comfortable around her. Normally, I am very uncomfortable in social situations. Not this time. My mother, sister, and I sat right up front. The goats were led in and the fun began.

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When first deciding to do goat yoga for my birthday, I was really excited about the goats. I never imagined that the yoga class itself would have impacted me so much. The class began, and I could slowly start to feel myself become calm and centered. My breathing changed and my head cleared. I felt at peace.

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That’s me all the way on the right. My sister is the one surrounded by goats.
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My mom, my sister, and I
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WHY I DID GOAT YOGA FOR MY BIRTHDAY

The instructor really inspired me to want to continue to do yoga. She taught us Pranayama breathing. That is something I was able to take with me after the class. For someone who suffers from terrible anxiety those breathing exercises will continue to help me.

Last but certainly not least, after the yoga class ended we were able to take photos with the goats. After that we were offered a complimentary beer or sangria. To top it off they were giving out free samples of an amazing sparkling rose. It was a perfect end to a perfect morning.

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Sparkling Rose
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My family and I decided that spending time together experiencing new things was way better than just exchanging birthday gifts. I must admit we have done some amazing things together. Goat yoga however, was by far my favorite. If you haven’t tried it yet, what are you waiting for?

Check out Goat Yoga Of Tampa Bay https://www.facebook.com/goatyogatampa/

Check out The Loop Brewing https://intheloopbrewingcompany.com/

LET'S TALK ABOUT GREEN FLAGS

LET’S TALK ABOUT GREEN FLAGS

LET'S TALK ABOUT GREEN FLAGS

We are always talking about what to look out for as far as red flags. Let’s talk about green flags. Don’t get so distracted looking for red flags that you overlook green flags.

No relationship is perfect and no matter how amazing someone is they will still do things we don’t like. How they react when we talk to them about that behavior is what’s important. There are several behaviors that are green flags. Let’s discuss a few of these green flags.

1. Being able to acknowledge and apologize when they are wrong – none of us really like to admit that we are wrong. Being able to admit it and sincerely apologize is crucial for a healthy relationship.
2. Able to use a calm tone of voice when fighting – Yelling and screaming is not a great way to communicate. It is also a terrible way to try to get your point across. Disagreements are a part of all relationships. Being able to discuss the issue calmly is a great attribute.
3. Listens when you talk – Whether it is something that affects them directly or just something that you like, having your partner listen to you is crucial to a strong relationship.
4. Supporting you – Whether it be supporting your ambitions or supporting you through something you are dealing with, support is something we all need.

5. Never puts you down – I don’t care if it is in public or in private. Putting your significant other down is not acceptable. That is definitely red flag behavior.

6. Compromises – I’m not talking about allowing you to walk all over them, but compromising when necessary.

Basically, we all know what red flag behavior is. So lets keep our eyes open for green flag behavior. When you do find it, that is the one you don’t want to lose. Bottom line you want to end up with someone who treats you right and helps you to be a better person.

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IS PAST HURT ROBBING YOU OF HAPPINESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

IS PAST HURT ROBBING YOU OF HAPPINESS

IS PAST HURT ROBBING YOU OF HAPPINESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

We’ve all been hurt in life, had our egos bruised, hearts broken, and maybe having to second guess our views on love in general. Some of us have been hurt worse then others. We all deal with that hurt differently. I put up walls that almost no one could get through, didn’t trust anyone, and was pretty jaded. Having been hurt in relationships before made me guarded. 

I am truly blessed to have a boyfriend who saw my behavior for what it was, a defense mechanism. He didn’t run, instead he told me I wouldn’t scare him off. One by one I began to shed my defenses and let him in.

One of the hardest things to do is to let down our armor and let people see us. To let ourselves be vulnerable. To take a chance once we’ve already been burned. But if you don’t then you will never be able to be in a happy healthy relationship.

Being hurt in relationships is a part of life. Past hurts are not limited to relationships, they can also include hurt from our childhoods. Past hurts don’t have to rob us of happiness in our current relationships. In fact they can actually lead to stronger and healthier relationships.

One of the most important things I did in this relationship is be honest about my past hurts. Now I don’t mean that as soon as we started dating I spewed out all of my most embarrassing issues that hurt me in the past. But I did communicate to my boyfriend that I was in an abusive relationship towards the beginning so that he would have an understanding of some of my behaviors. Now, I try to let him know when a situation makes me think of the past.

Loving yourself is so important. Not only can it keep the past from happening again, it can change how you handle situations. Part of loving yourself is changing the way you talk to yourself. This can help the way you interact with your significant other.

Get rid of fight or flight. Stay and calmly work through whatever is going on. All relationships will get tough. Avoidance and fighting are both bad options. If you truly want to make the relationship work, you will have to take a deep breath and don’t give up.

It’s okay to forgive and to forgive readily. You do not lose anything by forgiving someone that you love.

My boyfriend has patiently taught me that my vulnerabilities are not something that I need to be ashamed of. You shouldn’t hide your vulnerabilities, they are part of you. He has also shown me that I do not have to be perfect to be loved. Luckily my boyfriend also encourages me to be myself. All of these things have helped me to not allow my past hurts to hinder our relationship.

Use your friends for guidance and support. When I know that I am taking something from my past out on my boyfriend, I call my best friend and she talks it through with me. Close friends can really help you talk through the situation with you so that you don’t allow the hurt from teh past to control your future.

In my case what had caused the majority of my hurt was abusive behavior. It is easy to run to what is known because it is what is comfortable. Working on a new and healthy relationship can be awkward. You might not know how to react to something that is new and so good. Breathe through it. It is possible to let go of past hurts and be in a happy and healthy relationship.

Check out this awesome video about letting go of your past

Also one website that has helped me tremendously is https://www.sanityandself.com/

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How Not To Lose Yourself When In A Relationship

How Not To Lose Yourself In A New Relationship

Maintaining a strong sense of self when in a relationship is so important to your own personal health and the health of your relationship. This is something I have just recently come to learn. For the first time in my life it is also something that I have been able to put into practice.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for years or are newly in a relationship, loss of self can happen through out a relationship. Falling in love is new and exciting. It is easy to get wrapped up and forget about you instead of we.

Making yourself a priority when you are in a relationship isn’t selfish, it’s imperative to not losing one’s self. That doesn’t meant that you do not make your partner a priority as well, but you can put you first without being self-centered.

DO NOT LET SPENDING QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR BESTIES FALL TO THE WAY SIDE!

How Not To Lose Yourself When In A Relationship

Spending time with amazing friends in Maui.

Your besties are your support group, your sounding board, and so much more. Your besties will also always be there for you, you don’t break up with or divorce your besties. Never stop spending time with them just because you are in a relationship.

DO NOT FORGET ABOUT YOUR FAMILY.

How Not To Lose Yourself When In A Relationship

Ladies night out with my sister and mom.

Even though your family may drive you crazy they will always be there for you. Don’t forget about them just because you are in a relationship.

DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR HOBBIES.

How Not To Lose Yourself When In A Relationship

Travel is my passion. This is me on a beach in Maui.

Falling in love is exiting and fabulous. Being in a relationship is great. You still need to make sure that you do not lose yourself in the relationship. Finding balance in life is about choosing priorities. Don’t forget to make yourself a priority.

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Fabulously In The Middle

Fabulously In The Middle
Once you love yourself, you will be ready for someone else to love you

So for all of my amazing followers, I started Fabulously Single when I began a journey of self discovery. I truly took time to discover who I am, to heal, and to grow as a person. While my journey is far from over, I have met an amazing man. This doesn’t mean that I will disappear into coupledom. It does mean that I need to figure out how to keep my independence while sharing myself with this great guy.

We’ve been dating for four months. So, while yes I have a boyfriend, I am not married or engaged. Hence, fabulously in the middle. I am going to continue working on myself, healing, and growing more confident.

One thing I have learned about myself in my time being single is that I often lose myself when in a relationship. So, I have made a conscious effort to make sure that doesn’t happen this time. It is definitely a balancing act. Finding the right mix of personal time, time with my family and friends, and time to grow as a couple.

Just having got back from Hawaii, Maui to be exact I really had some time to think about being fabulously in the middle. I planned this trip with a group of friends before I met my boyfriend. I went on the trip without him. I had an amazing time with my friends, tested my boundaries, and continued to grow. While I’m not saying I would not have enjoyed having my boyfriend there, I am saying that I am making a conscious effort to have me time and keep a healthy balance.

Don’t worry, I will still be writing. My upcoming blog is about how not to lose yourself in a relationship. Dating doesn’t have to be all encompassing. It is important to enjoy being fabulously in the middle. At the end of the day remember it is you who needs to love yourself and bring you happiness.

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How To Let Someone Love You

How To Let Someone Love You

How To Let Someone Love You

Having experienced some very bad breakups and even some not so great friendships, I have built some serious walls. My default mode is to push people away. I have had to make a conscious effort to let people in and more specifically to let people love me.

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I never fully felt like I deserved a healthy relationship or partner.

When ever someone got to close I would fight, flee, or freeze. I have been dating an amazing guy who is nice beyond belief. In the beginning I would literally feel like I was choking because I didn’t know how to accept his kindness and affection. My sister gave me some great advice. Just breathe through it.

Step one is actually very easy. Admit what you really want. Do not allow fear of being hurt or embarrassed stop you. A very good friend of mine would always tell me that a healthy relationship is what I really wanted. My own securities kept me from admitting that. (Until I met someone who was really a good guy and made me feel comfortable to admit it.)

Recognize your patterns. Personally, I know that I would push away anyone who was “to nice” or anyone who had their s*** together. As a result I also would find things wrong with men that I dated if I thought they were getting to close.

Communicate. Let the other person know you are struggling. Let them help you. If the person is worth it they will not judge you but love you through it.

Understand that dysfunction doesn’t equal love.

As uncomfortable as it is work on yourself. Build your confidence and self worth. You need to consider yourself worthy of being loved.

Letting go of past hurts and trauma can feel impossible. However it is necessary not only to you healing but to allowing someone to love you.

Real talk it does get easier but it hasn’t completely gone away. I still struggle with it. Luckily for me the guy I am dating is patient and kind. Also I have an amazing group of friends that know me and help me get through it without sabotaging things.

Come Check out How I found My Self Worth http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/finding-my-self-worth/

Love will always be a risk.  All things considered, it is worth it though. Living not allowing anyone to love you is a very lonely life. So take a deep breath… … and then have the courage to allow yourself to be loved.