Making friends when you are younger is so easy, it happens naturally with not much effort. Lets face it making friends as an adult is about as appealing as going to the dentist. You have to do it, you know it will be good for you, and it’s healthy but ugh having to go out and actually do it. Finding friends in the adult world sucks!
If you thought cliques and mean girls would no longer be a part of your life after high school, boy were you wrong. Whether it’s work, other moms, or even family members, the cliques and mean girls live on after high school. In addition to the cliques and mean girls many of us have to overcome our own personalities. Not everyone is a social butterfly.
So, how are we supposed to find friends in the adult world?
I am an introvert who is completely comfortable watching TV with her dog. It sounds weird I know. That doesn’t mean I do not like to try new things and visit new places. Leaving my room or my dungeon as my friends affectionately call it is not always on the top of my list.
YOU NEED TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE!
Nurture Your Existing Friendships
Friendships like any relationship will ebb and flow. Reciprocity is key. You need to reach out to the friends you already have. Arrange a brunch or get together.
The majority of my adulthood friends I met through networking. When you are at a social or family gathering get out there and socialize. Bizarrely enough several of my really good friends I met through an ex, they are the best thing I got out of that relationship.
Use your kids – yes this includes your fur babies
Moms will have to socialize with other moms whether they like it or not. There are play dates, school events, extra curriculars, etc. Take that time to see if you mesh with some of these moms. Fur baby moms – go to the dog park. You know you already have something important in common.
Volunteering is not only a way to meet friends but will also make you feel good about yourself. Now I know, it’s not like you don’t have a million other things to do. But you can do something good for others, while meeting people with similar interests.
As we get older it is no loner necessary to have many friends. It is more important to have a handful of great friends. Yes, it is easier said than done, but you need to get out there. Find your tribe!
We all know that there is an app for everything. Well now there are several apps for finding friends. I am going to try a few and will let you know how it goes. Look for my follow up blog on these apps.
Until next time….