I’m not to picky, I just deserve better

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I'm not to picky, I just deserve better

Having been single for quite some time, I am often accused of being to picky. But why is being picky actually a bad thing? When looking for a long term relationship and not just a fling, shouldn’t we choose wisely? Besides, it’s not that I’m picky, it’s that I know I deserve more than what I’ve been offered so far.




I am a self sufficient woman, who has family, friends, and two amazing dogs. My career is fulfilling. There is not one aspect of my life that I feel is lacking. So why should I settle?


At this point it probably seems that I am light years behind others at my age and might never meet someone. I personally don’t believe that, however it definitely wouldn’t be the worst fate. I will not settle for the sake of not being single.


Yes, I have a bad track record when it comes to dating. But I am grateful for it. Everyone of those ugly experiences taught me what not to tolerate. I am confident enough now to never allow certain behaviors again.


Being a smart, funny, and moderately attractive woman, I know what I bring to the table. Why would I want to waste time on someone who doesn’t have a lot to offer as well?


There is no rushing perfection, there is also no rushing finding “the one”. Taking my time for one of the most important decisions of my life is most certainly not being “too picky” it just makes sense.


In addition to not being willing to settle, the next time I am with someone I want it to be long term. I would rather be alone and happy then involved and unhappy. The next time I fall in love I want it to last. That is worth waiting for.

I have changed many times in the past to fit into someone else’s life. I will never do that again. Being a chameleon isn’t fun. I like my life, who I am, and what I enjoy. If someone doesn’t fit into my life then they are not for me.


Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with isn’t a race. There is no right time frame.

Is this the journey I thought I would be on at this point in my life? No. Am I upset that this is the journey I am on? Definitely not. I am learning, growing, and experiencing new things all of the time. Why settle with the wrong person, just to be with someone? Forever is a very long time to be miserable. I would rather be happily single, than unhappily coupled.

Come check out 30 Reasons Why It Is Great To Be Single In Your 30’s http://www.fabulouslysingle.life/30-reasons-why-your-30s-is-the-best-time-to-be-single/

8 thoughts on “I’m not to picky, I just deserve better

  1. Kathy

    This is so relateable! I patiently wait, yet not being controlled meanwhile! I just ditched a Way ugly sitch! Why was I involved in that B.S? I lost my footing, briefly.But I’m now back!

  2. Yes!!! There is nothing wrong with being single and you should never settle. Keep those standards, high girl! You will find the right person when the time is right.

  3. I completely agree with all of this! I want to find someone who adds something positive to my life, not someone that causes stress and unhappiness.

  4. I love the GIFs throughout your post. I think these days social media over hypes the idea of being with someone, to the point where people are afraid to be single and happy by themselves.

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