While being single is a much more popular choice today, how to be single is up for debate. Singles not only have to combat coupled people telling them how to live the single life, but more and more singles are telling others how to embrace their singledom. Not everyone is going to embrace their singledom the same way, nor should they have to. My message is simple, Stop Telling Me How To Be Single!
It is unbelievable how many people tell me how they think that I should embrace my singledom. Friends, family, and more surprisingly complete strangers. Now, this might sound hypocritical as I write on the topic of being single often. The thing is I don’t only write for my lifestyle choices, I try to represent all singles.
Singledom is not a one size fits all lifestyle. Some people enjoy being single to the point that they have no desire to date again. While others are distraught at the thought of being alone forever. Meanwhile there are many singles who are enjoying the single life, working on themselves, but still want to meet someone one day. None of these paths are wrong.
I am on many social media platforms for Fabulously Single, and I am always surprised by how many other singles are so militant in their views of “how to be single”. It is absolutely exhausting. No person should attempt to force another to feel, live, or dream in a particular way. Single also doesn’t have to equate to being angry, militant, or anti-relationship. Stop Telling Me How To Be Single!
I love my married and coupled friends and family, and do not feel the need to make fun of them, or show anger or animosity towards them. It truly saddens me how much judgement and animosity I hear in some of these singles groups pertaining to non singles. Now don’t get me wrong, there is definitely judgment coming from both sides. The judgement I see from some married women for my choice to be single isn’t something that I find acceptable either.
In the words of Wayne Dyer “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself”. Everyone will embrace their singledom differently and none of them are wrong. Don’t judge people for how they choose to live their single lives. And most importantly, have the courage to live your life the way you want to. Let’s stop perpetuating the stereotypes of single life.
Until next time….